This week The Fix presented an article by Rachel Kramer Bussel about how people have successfully used BDSM to stay clean and sober. The piece notes San Francisco’s Safeword which is a kink-flavored 12-step program established by BDSM author/educator Mollena Williams. There are also a number of quotes from BDSM players on how the BDSM community and kinky events have helped them on the road to recovery. I would highly advise reading the full article.
Those of us in the lifestyle know the power of “subspace,” a natural high similar to the “Runner’s High”, that a good scene can bring to the players (and Doms can feel as well). It should be no surprise to discover that people are trading the unnatural high from drugs or alcohol for the natural high from BDSM play.
Another aspect of a BDSM relationship is power exchange. Dominants set out restrictions and submissives set boundaries throughout the relationship. These protocols and limits are exceptionally effective in reinforcing positive behavior in a fun, but very real way for the players. In a healthy relationship this power exchange can be used to guide a submissive to get healthier, deal with insecurities, meet personal obligations, and… in this case, stay clean and sober.
I’d like to hear your thoughts and stories about BDSM and sobriety. Please contact me directly at [email protected] or leave me a comment below.
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Princess Zoe got an opportunity to set down with Buck Angel while they were both in Dallas. They talk about Buck being on the board for the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance, his two new videos and his recent trip to SXSW.
Buck was kind enough to mention that I did the photography for the front of his new video!
Here’s a summer camp that beats the shit out of anything you went to as a kid! Mistress Ezada is offering a summer camp in France that is styled on the “Other World Kingdom” concept where submissive men live 24/7 as a slave to all the dominant women. Hogspy has all the information on the camp in the article below.
With the release of the latest edition of the mental-health manual, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM), LiveScience takes look at some of the disorders it defines. What the new DSM says is that a true fetish, which is a sexual attraction to objects (or something like feet or hair), is only a disorder if “the attraction causes him significant distress, impairs his ability to function or could lead him to harm others.”
This is good news for kinky people because it removes the automatic stigma associated with clinical fetishism. It’s another major victory for kink world, and there have been several over the past year alone.
Many people have seen the results of a shibari session through photography but very few have seen what the process is like. This video is an excellent example of the beautiful and intimate connection that takes place between the rigger and the person being tied.
Just look at the spacey expression on her face near the end of the video and you see why so many seek out this experience.
If the video above has piqued your interest in rope bondage maybe you would like to know more. BDSM Unveiled has this article that gives you a definition of rope bondage, shibari and kinbaku, plus a history of rope bondage and even some tips, techniques and cool photos. This article is packed with information and a great read.
Do submissives have rights? Of course they do! Unfortunately a lot of people who are new to BDSM may not understand that when they enter into a BDSM relationship as a submissive that there are some fundamental things that they should expect. I think this list of “rights” by Sir Conor does an excellent job of defining what submissives should expect. I think people who find themselves on both sides of the whip should read this article, but particularly if you are new to the scene.
Fetish model and contortionist has a nice write-up and gallery at Deep Down and Kinky at the link below.
Goddess Eden shares a very honest list of things that may be a revelation to some submissives. Many of these things are contrary to popular belief. While these thoughts are certainly not universal to all dominants, they do represent the fact that dominants have fantasies, hopes and fears that are similar to everyone else.
Sometimes being a dominant means displaying a strong and unwavering front, but there is a real person beneath the role. Admitting these things can be difficult when a submissive wants and needs you to be a rock, so that they can let go. It’s important to note that the courage it takes to admit these things actually makes you a better dominant.
Fetish model Elegy Ellem is a perennial favorite of mine, so I couldn’t resist sharing this video of a photoshoot with Elegy Ellem, Ruby True and Candice Fitch with video by Duane Joubert. This video is literally and figuratively HOT!
Since Pakistan is easily one of the least tolerant nations when it comes to being gay, you have to either laugh or cry when you hear that Pakistan leads the world in searches for gay porn. The hypocrisy here is exceptionally high, and points out that you can’t change people’s nature, even if you try to suppress it.
Read more: http://newswire.xbiz.com/view.php?id=163911
If you’re a member of the BDSM community, you experience the derision from strangers (sometimes friends and family) regarding your lifestyle. Next time tell them that people who engage in BDSM are actually healthier than those who don’t. That’s the results of a scientific study recently published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
According to Reuters, BDSM participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.
After years of discussions with ignorant people about BDSM, it’s exceptionally satisfying to share this study, which backs up everything I’ve been arguing. In fact, it goes further than I ever did, by suggesting that kinky people are actually healthier than everyone else. My personal experience and observations have been that people into BDSM seem to be like a standard cross-section of society. I have noticed that kinky people are generally more intelligent and more creative than most people I run into, but I gravitate to those people naturally.
Since this story broke early this week it has exploded across the mainstream media around the world. This is a major story that has achieved surprisingly positive and unbiased reporting. If this study was released a couple of years ago, it is my belief that it would have been buried or the writers of these pieces would have downplayed the results. (I have included some of the more prominent articles below, but this is certainly not a comprehensive list.)
The results of this study will provide you with ammunition the next time you have to talk to someone about your mental health in the context of BDSM. Furthermore, the narrative by the press means that society is learning that BDSM can be part of a happy and healthy relationship. That’s something that’s worth celebrating.
Saturday, June 08, 2013
I’m looking for a Makeup Artist to work with on new projects. If you’re a Makeup Artist or you know one, please click the link on the article above.
Princess Zoe and I interviewed kink-inspired band Kali Ra on the latest episode of The Fetish Show.
Two of my all-time favorite models are in the photo sets above. If you like Goddess Sieva and Fawn Marie, you’ll be happy to know that I have more sets coming from them soon!
The wonderfully curvy Elegy Ellem shared this set of photos on her Tumblr feed. I love the mood and tone of these simple and elegant nude photos by Hakan Dauven.
You can see Hakan Daven’s site here.
If you’ve read the articles on my lead story above then you know that people who engage in BDSM are actually healthier than their peers. While it’s less of an uphill climb than it has been in the past, the stigma of the people and practices of BDSM are still something those of us in the community have to deal with.
Australia’s Maureen Matthews answers the question “Is BDSM dangerous and unhealthy?” for one of her readers. Her conclusions mention the high level of sexual communication that occurs in a healthy BDSM relationship, something that I think separates kinky couples from most vanilla couples.
I’m a very big proponent of having a submissive fill out a scene report, particularly at the beginning of a relationship. The things a dominant can learn from an honest report can make the experience better for the submissive and bring the couple closer together. I can speak from personal experience at how fulfilling it is for the dominant to read the what the submissive was feeling during the scene. I can also tell you that the submissive gains a great deal from reliving and chronicling what happens over time.
There are not many instructive articles on the subject of the scene report. It should be no surprise that Submissive Guide goes where others fear to tread.
This is a spectacular preview video of fetish model Bianca Beauchamp for BiancaBeauchamp.com. Bianca is irresistible in a see-through pink latex maid dress!
Mistress Leyla presents an article from Ted Subby that defines and explores the male submissive worm in the most respectful and informative way that I’ve ever seen. There’s a lot of good information and insight in this article. I particularly like the sympathetic tone of this piece.
Andy Simon of Darkslide Photography is the subject of this cool interview with Deep Down Kinky. I think you’ll enjoy the interview and Andy Simon’s interesting fetish-inspired photos.
By the way, if you want to keep up with the updates from Deep Down Kinky you can follow them on Twitter here.
Comics Alliance has given us a collection of erotic art by some of the world’s best known comic artists. I have a background as a comic artist and I do love both comics and erotica, so I just had to share this article. If you like the work of Adam Warren (above), Dave Stevens, Adam Hughes and many others, you’ll enjoy seeing this sexy version of their art.
Back when I first met Fawn Marie we talked about doing fetish shoots and she picked up this leather and chain harness. Unfortunately it never seemed like the right time or place to shoot with this outfit. Last month we got a location and shot all day and we were both determined to get a set with this hot outfit!
I think you can see why Fawn is one of my all-time favorite models. She gave me such a range of emotions in these photos that it was hard to narrow it all down. And, of course, she looks spectacular.
I knew that if I pumped enough light into this location that those walls would shine and I really wanted to give her some glamour lighting. The result is a very pretty set.
Want to see more of Fawn Marie? She is a feature entertainer and her site is at FawnMarie.com.
More sets of Fawn Marie are coming soon!
If you like that flogger, it’s a Power Flogger and it was provided by the great people at Punish Petal.
Please click the thumbnails below to see the full-size photos.
Fetish photographer Dirk Hooper is looking for makeup artists for both personal and professional projects. This is an opportunity to work with Dirk Hooper on projects that will be in galleries, art shows, magazines and books worldwide. It will also be an opportunity to make money on shoots with editorial and private clients.
Requirements for the position are a high level of creativity, comfort working with glamour-style makeup, an open mind, professionalism and living near the Oklahoma City metro area. Most shoots will take place in the evening or on weekends. An ability to travel, experience working with alternative makeup styles and basic hairstyle skills are not required but would be helpful. If you are particularly good at choosing clothing, props and appointing sets, you may be promoted to Photography Stylist and be intimately involved in the creative process.
Personal projects will be an excellent way to build a portfolio and a resume with appearances in art shows, websites, magazines and books around the world. You will set your own rates for editorial and client shoots. Collaboration and creative ideas are always welcome; this may be a great chance to bring your own concepts to reality.
Interested makeup artists or photography stylists should contact Dirk directly at:
Just last month Goddess Sieva traveled from Wisconsin to Oklahoma City so that we could do a couple of days of shooting. We ended up with a good number of sets and this is the first.
I worked with her several years ago and we’ve kept in touch since then. She really wanted to turn up the heat on these sets and I think we achieved that.
All of the new photos were shot in one hotel room over two days. The hotel we picked was brand new and had a really modern layout. The area in this set had a small desk with a frosted glass separator. I like playing with light so I immediately wanted to blast light through that glass.
We picked an outfit that looked like something she… might be able to wear in an office. Okay, not in any office that I’ve worked at, but maybe dreamed about.
I like the way the light coming through the glass makes a bluish halo around her dark hair, and stockings are always a favorite mine.
Please click on the thumbnails below to see the full size photos.
I’ve had two very successful shoots with Dallas dominatrix Mistress Daria lately. The photos below are a sample of what we shot on one day at her lavishly appointed Dallas dungeon.
Mistress Daria has so many amazing dungeon furniture pieces and so many cool toys that it was difficult to decide what to use! She wanted to focus on latex pieces and I’m always excited to shoot latex so most of these photos have latex outfits. For those of you who are interested, the red latex dress is from House of Harlot and the other two outfits are from Syren Latex.
The photos from this day of shooting have appeared in Issue One of Subspace Magazine and the Issue 76 of the Domination Directory International (a two-page spread with multiple photos and an article on Mistress Daria).
The photos below are just a small sample of what we shot that day. Please visit Mistress Daria’s site to see the whole sets (one of my photos is currently on her entrance page). You can also follow Mistress Daria on Twitter.
I specialize in Dominatrix Photography. If you’d like to book a shoot with me, please check out my Professional Photography page.
Please click on the thumbnails below to see the full size photo.
Tequila Rose recently shared a personal story and some thoughts on modern feminism and being a submissive woman. I’ve heard other women with very similar stories, where friends or acquaintances tell a woman that they are not good feminists because they are submissive to… shudder… a MAN.
Without fail the criticism always comes from people who have absolutely no idea what they are talking about. Ignorance about BDSM is still exceptionally high. Reading Fifty Shades of Grey certainly doesn’t give you any understanding about a real BDSM relationship, and the drop-off in knowledge is stunningly sharp after that.
Very few people understand the potential for growth and empowerment through BDSM. You don’t have to be on top to gain insight into yourself and sexual fulfillment that may not be possible any other way. Being submissive, whether you are a man or woman, does not mean that you are weak or flawed or, “setting back the woman’s rights movement by twenty years”.
Being submissive in a relationship takes more guts than you can possibly imagine. It’s a challenging proposition that can make you much more than you’ve ever been.
If you are a supporter of feminism then you should also support the right of a woman to choose how to live their lives, in and out of the bedroom.
Sunday, March 10, 2013
We’ve been working hard on the new episode of The Fetish Show. We should do our last segment this week and have the show out soon after that. Recently we updated the computer, the mixer, the software and the recording equipment we use to create episodes. You should see an improvement on the sound quality and the effects that we can do. We are very close to what you would hear in a big studio now. More details soon!
Also, I’ve recently had the opportunity to shoot with Mistress Daria and the photos we got were great! Even more recently Goddess Sieva travelled from Wisconsin to shoot with me and I’m getting close to working those shots.
I just wrapped up an appearance at Dirty Show in Detroit. The Dirty Show is the biggest erotic art show in North America and it’s always an honor to be included in that show. The piece that made it into the show is titled QISS and features Apple Angel and members of TnT Burlesque.
I’ve got another major shoot scheduled next weekend, and maybe another couple of smaller shoots, so there will be a lot of updates coming here soon!
Always on top of the news and happening with female domination, Hogspy shares with us some news about Miss Kitty’s new stocking fetish gallery on her site.
Since I’ve got a stocking fetish myself, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to feature Miss Kitty here.
Red Vinyl Kitten from The Sub Mission gives a quick and simple guide on how to shave your private parts. This piece is written from the perspective of a submissive, which is an interesting take on the subject.
If you’ve never visited The Sub Mission, there is a good combination of personal stories, opinion, advice and reviews. I suggest you visit there and take a look around.
You call also follow Kitty on Twitter @The_Sub_Mission
Chocolat the Extraordinaire writes an article for 21st Century Burlesque that gets my highest recommendation. Not only does she give her own personal experience, she breaks down an extensive history of women of color in burlesque and gives everyone a call to action. This is an excellent in-depth article with a ton of information. Take a moment and read something that will make you a cooler person.
Marilyn Yusef is one of a handful of new fetish models who have built a career out of latex fashion. Here’s a recent example of one of her videos now available on YouTube.
Thanks to Holly at Kink Lovers for addressing an important aspect of a BDSM relationship. When you begin a new BDSM relationship learning about your partner is always intense and exciting. Keeping things fresh for both partners can be just as challenging in a kinky relationship as it is in a vanilla relationship.
There are some good ideas here. Do you have some more? Send them to me at [email protected]. I’d like to do a piece on this subject for The Fetish Show.
For those who have followed Judge Dredd comics, you know that Judge Dredd’s first love is The Law, but according to a recent issue, his second love may be dudes. Dredd is a UK comic with a long history of dealing with social and political issues in a sci-fi world.
Lately, comics have been relegated to being an “idea factory” for other media like television, movies and video games. Anything comic creators can do to grab some attention has been tried and I’m sure this is another ploy for some short term press.
I think the real story here is that reaction has been… meh. Most readers of Dredd are used to the satire and not your standard 13 year old hetero adolescents. Of course some people are upset, but it seems to be based on the obvious marketing ploy. Apparently heroes coming out of the closet are not that big a story anymore, and that’s a very good sign.
Sunday, February 03, 2013
Photos from Footnight Dallas by Dirk Hooper
I was the photographer for the new Footnight Dallas foot fetish party and got a bunch of great photos of the fetish models and dominatrix at the event. Please click on the link below to see those photos.
See my work in Issue One of Subspace Magazine
I recently shot with Dallas dominatrix Mistress Daria and part of the shoot ended up in a feature article in the debut issue of Subspace Magazine. You can read more about the magazine and order your own issue below.
Erotica: Ella Ardour and Apple Angel
Ohh My Blog in the UK featured my recent shoot with pin-up models Ella Ardour and Apple Angel.
Cara Sutra takes on the question of whether you can stop being kinky in this excellent article.
I personally know a lot of people who have “quit” BDSM and have returned after a relatively short period of time. Most people want out for one of two reasons. Either they are in a relationship that ends in disaster, or they get tired of the childish antics and rumor mongering in the community. I could probably write an article on both subjects (and should) but the point is that those two things are not strong enough de-motivators to keep you out of kink forever.
When I mentor new dominants and submissives I always tell them that once they make the step into the kink world there is no going back. Yes, you can repress how you feel, but there is something that brought you to kink in the first place. That need is a part of you and BDSM is extremely powerful when it’s done right. It is a part of you.
I have to agree with Cara Sutra’s conclusion that, in my experience, you can’t remove being kinky from your nature any more than you can change your sexual orientation or your love of chocolate.
CNBC takes a look at who are the biggest business leaders in porn. Ron Caldwell is an excellent pick, since CCBill is nearly the only company that will process the credit cards of porn sites. Other people like Larry Flynt and Steven Hirsch of Vivid are exactly who would expect to see on this short list.
Of particular note to readers of FETISHWEEK, Peter Acworth makes the list. He’s the fetish photographer turned Kink.com mogul who they say has most benefitted from the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon.
The English Mansion is well-known for offering quality femdom video and photos. Mistress Sidonia features gorgeous LA dominatrix January Seraph in this article and naturally has a link to some of her work at The English Mansion.
You can also follow January Seraph’s Twitter account here.
The LA Times offers this short interview video with James Franco and Christina Voros who produced and directed “Kink” the documentary on the Kink.com websites. The thing that strikes me about this project is the respect that the creators bring to fetish and BDSM. Just listen to what they have to say about the professionalism and business acumen at the Armory and you know that things have changed radically in the past couple of years.
I’d love to see this film and will review it as soon as I get a chance. The debut was at Sundance so I’ll get my chance soon.
Speaking of Kink, here’s the Sundance trailer. I know you want to see it as much as I do!
Footnight Dallas was a blast! I met so many new people and took a load of photos. If you’re into foot fetish or just like hanging around a bunch of fetish models and dominatrix for an evening, then this show is for you.
I’d like to thank the hosts Mistress Daria and Goddess Ashlee for inviting me and giving me such a great space to shoot in. I’d also like to thank the staff at the venue, who were top notch and a lot of help.
Are you one of the models in these photos? Help me out to identify you! Also, contact me, I have something for you.
Please click on the thumbnails below for the full size photos.
Mistress Daria and Goddess Ashlee have invited me to take photos of all the lovely dominatrix and models at Footnight Dallas on January 22, 2013. If you’re unfamiliar with Footnight events, and you have a foot fetish, then you should definitely check out their site and sign up here.
I’m looking forward to the party atmosphere and meeting some incredible woman on Tuesday. Check back here for photos from the event! More information is below or you can go to the Dallas Footnight Blog to see photos and profile of the models and dominatrix who will attend the party.
You can also follow info on this Dallas Footnight and all future events on Twitter.
Footnight Dallas will be held at a stunning, all new venue designed with you, the foot lover, in mind!
These parties will be held in Dallas quarterly or more!!
Stay connected to see our schedule and enjoy some foot fetish fun!
International Fetish Photographer Dirk Hooper
Featured Footnight guests
BRAND NEW VERY PRIVATE AND DISCREET LOCATION
Bar available for drinks (alcohol & reg beverages)
New venue is dedicated to the event ALONE on footnight!!!!!!
EVENT: Footnight Dallas “All New Grand Launch” Footparty
DATE: Tuesday, January 22, 2013
TIME: 8pm – 1.00am
LOCATION: Provided to registered guests